3 Things Women Unnecessarily Worry About During Sex

Let’s take a look at the most common hang-ups that tend to become issues during intimacy, even though they really shouldn’t be. 

1. I’m too fat, too skinny, too bony, too cellulite-ridden, my boobs are too small, and besides, I have a pimple.
I’ve noticed that many women, especially after giving birth, stop feeling sexy because their bodies have changed, and they no longer see the same reflection in the mirror. As a result, they become dissatisfied with themselves and don’t believe their husbands, no matter how much they insist that a few extra pounds or slightly saggier breasts don’t make the slightest difference during intimacy.

Speaking from experience - despite having what society might consider an imperfect body - I’ve been in bed with plenty of men. Some stayed for just one night, others came back for more. The secret? I never once worried during sex whether they noticed the cellulite on my butt. Ladies, take note: the moment a guy sees you naked, and the blood starts rushing from his brain elsewhere, he’s no longer concerned about whether the woman in front of him is physically perfect. If you’ve already made it this far with a guy, you can be sure he desires you just as you are.
There’s absolutely no point in stressing that you don’t look like Angelina Jolie in that Mr. and Mrs. Smith sex scene - because the guy next to you isn’t Brad Pitt, either.

And, this kind of insecurity can backfire. If a woman is dissatisfied in bed, over time the guy will start blaming himself, thinking he’s failing to please her. So instead of ruining sex for both of you, toss those thoughts about physical imperfections out the window and just enjoy making love!

2. I don’t smell good down there
I’ve heard this from more than a few women. Even after washing up before sex, they still feel uncomfortable and embarrassed when natural scents start to emerge as they get aroused.

Here’s what I can say about that: first, our sense of smell is one of our most powerful little Cupids. Thousands of studies confirm that even though we’ve evolved far past our tree-dwelling ancestors, our nose still plays a huge role in finding the right sexual partner. In other words, for men, a woman’s natural sexual scent is far more of a turn-on than a turn-off.
Now, of course, this doesn’t mean neglecting hygiene - staying clean and fresh down there is important - but during sex, worrying about your natural scent is pointless. By then, he’s so turned on, your scent acts as an aphrodisiac for him.

Second, if you really are scent-obsessed and want to smell like flowers down there, here’s a little trick I sometimes use: after washing, apply a bit of scented baby oil between your legs. During sex, this scent will become more intense, masking any natural odors.
What you shouldn’t do is constantly worry about whether he’ll like your taste or smell. Trust nature - it was designed to work in your favor!

3. I’m embarrassed to orgasm
Yes, for those who experience orgasms as naturally as breathing, this might sound surprising. But I’ve met quite a few women who shy away from sex because they’re embarrassed by their own orgasm.

It can’t be said enough: even though the world is far more open about sexuality these days, with sex education books, porn, and increasingly explicit movie scenes readily available, many women are still not sexually informed. A lot of women still don’t masturbate, and many have never received proper sex education to understand what’s normal and natural during sex.

For example, the spasms, the screams, the body twitching that comes with orgasm won’t make a man think you’re crazy. Quite the opposite - it intensifies his pleasure and desire. The number one thing men want in bed is to see a woman enjoying herself. They love watching it - it gives them a sense of accomplishment.
So however you orgasm - whether it’s with a sigh, a scream, lying still, or writhing - there’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Embrace it with confidence! Every man loves hearing and seeing the pleasure he’s giving you.